TYLER - Can you please help me come to a conclusion on an important question? I'm in a search and debate to answer a question. Does God the Father love all of his children equally? John 3:16 supports that he does and others seem to hint that he might love his children but not equally. The measure of his love depends on our obedience.

JOEL - You bring up an interesting question that Elder Russell M. Nelson tried to answer in a talk called "Divine Love", which you can find at this page

He suggests that although God's love is perfect, infinite, and universal for all mankind it can not be called "unconditional". He goes on to say that there are "higher levels" of love that God feels which is conditional upon our obedience to His commandments. He uses the following scriptures to support this concept:

“If ye keep my commandments, [then] ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.” (John 15:10)
“If you keep not my commandments, [then] the love of the Father shall not continue with you.” (D&C 95:12;)
“If a man love me, [then] he will keep my words: and my Father will love him.” (John 14:23)
“I love them that love me; and those that seek me … shall find me.” (Prov. 8:17)
“God is no respecter of persons: But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him.” (Acts 10:34–35)
The Lord “loveth those who will have him to be their God.” (1 Ne. 17:40)
“He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.” (John 14:21)

He goes on to make the point that God loves both the saint and the sinner, but that if this higher form of His love for us was totally unconditional we might not feel compeled to do those things necessary for our happiness and eternal life; that we might feel that it doesn't matter if we are good or bad, that God will still love us enough to bring us into heaven, regardless of what we have done during our life.
I must say that I don't fully understand of all this myself, although the scriptures I mentioned above do tend to suggest, as you observed, different levels of love that God might have for His children.
I guess you could say that God's love is "unconditional" in that no matter how bad you are He will still love you, but that the higher form of God's love which compels Him to grant us exaltation in heaven, is "conditional" upon our obedience and love towards Him. I think for now I am not going to worry about what level of love God feels for me, but just know that He does love me and wants me to be with Him again.