JOEL - Many have a hard time knowing for sure when they have
received answers to prayers. A lot of it has to do
with how we pray and how we ask things of God.
Sometimes we go to the Lord with a problem and just
flat out ask Him what to do. We expect to see a vision
or hear a voice telling us exactly what to do. This
almost never happens. God usually expects us to figure
it out on our own first, make a decision and then ask
Him if it is right.
Oliver Cowdery received a special revelation from the
Lord teaching him that principle:
"Behold, you have not understood, You have supposed that I would give it unto you, when you took no thought save it was to ask me." (D&C 9:7.)
If our decision is correct, we can have a peaceful
warm feeling inside; the Holy Ghost confirming that we
have made the right choice. If not, we have a stupor
of thought; uncertain of what the answer is.
Much of this depends on the intent of our heart. We
are much more inclined to get an answer if we are
asking for a righteous thing and if we have strived to
keep ourselves in tune with God and His spirit.
Pres. Marion G. Romney said,
"When confronted with a problem I prayerfully weigh in my mind solutions and come to a conclusion as to which is best. Then in prayer, I submit to the Lord my problem, tell him that I desire to make the right choice. Then I ask him if I have made the right decision to give me that burning feeling within. When enlightenment and peace come into my mind, I know the Lord is saying, yes. If I have a "stupor of thought" I know he is saying ,no, and I try again, following the same procedure."
If we don't seem to get any answer it could be that
the problem we are praying about really isn't as big
or important as we think it is. Many times it doesn't
matter which way we choose(eg. which house to buy,
which school we go to, etc.). If we are trying to live
right, the Lord will bless us no matter what we choose
to do.
President Brigham Young said,
"If I ask the Lord to give me wisdom concerning any requirement in life, and I get no answer from him, and then do the very best that my judgement will teach me, he is bound to own and honor that transaction, and give the divine help that I need."
Sometimes we ask with impatience, expecting to get an
immediate answer. Sometimes when the Lord doesn’t
answer our questions immediately, or within a day, or
a week, or a month we tend to think He will never
answer. We must be patient and be ready for the answer
when it comes.
Sometimes when we pray we aren't really listening for
an answer nor do we wait for the answer. After praying
we immediately jump up and leave not giving time for
the spirit to influence our minds. Or there may be
other distractions around us that keep us from being
focused enough on what we are praying about. These
things can prevent us from getting the promptings we
need.
We also must remember that the "burning in the bosom"
is not the method of answering prayers that the Lord
mentions the most. In revelations to Joseph Smith,
Oliver Cowdery, and Hyrum Smith, the Lord talks about
answering prayers by enlightening the mind, speaking
peace to the mind, telling the person "in your mind
and in your heart," filling the soul with joy (see D&C
6:15, 23; D&C 8:2; D&C 11:13-14). He will speak to us
in ways that will be most effective for our own
conditions. We must learn to recognize how we feel
when the Spirit is with us and when he is
communicating to us. It might be different for
different people.
Most of all don't give up on God. He does care about
you and loves you and wants you to succeed.
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