JOEL - Families should support the mother's decision if the decision is in the best interest of the child. Church members who are involved in pregnancy out of wedlock are encouraged to go to their bishop, who by virtue of his priesthood office and calling, can counsel with them as they make important decisions that affect their own well-being and that of the child. The bishop might refer the unwed parents to LDS Social Services (where available) regardless of whether they choose to marry place their child for adoption, or keep the child without getting married.
Our Church leaders have stated:
"Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by parents who provide love, support, and all the blessings of the gospel.
Every effort should be made in helping those who conceive out of wedlock to establish an eternal family relationship. When the possibility of a successful marriage is unlikely, unwed parents should be encouraged to place the child for adoption, preferably through LDS Social Services....
Unwed parents who do not marry should not be counseled to keep the infant as a condition of repentance or out of an obligation to care for one's own. Generally, unwed parents are not able to provide the stable, nurturing environment so essential for the baby's well-being.
When deciding to place the baby for adoption, the best interests of the child should be the paramount consideration. Placing the infant for adoption enables unwed parents to do what is best for the child and enhances the prospect for the blessings of the gospel in the lives of all concerned" (First Presidency letter, 15 June 1998; see also "Adoption and Foster Care," page 147).
If an unwed parent decides to keep the child, leaders and other members of our church will treat the parent and child with compassion and concern. In many cases the unwed teen's parents can can offer the support needed to help raise the child in a stable home where the gospel is taught and lived. See also KIM